I’m sorry that I am not sorry.
I have a challenge for all of those wise and awesome women of the world. Go through a day without saying, “I’m sorry”.
I know it sounds easy, but as women, we actually spend a lot of our time saying sorry for things we don’t actually need to be sorry for:
To husband, “Sorry, could you please hold our baby while I cook dinner?”.
To colleague, “Sorry, can I interrupt you?”.
To friend, “Sorry, I need to ask you to pick my child up for me.”.
To employee, “Sorry, I need to ask you to do this for me.”.
To mum, “Sorry, I need some help.”.
Now before the, omg that is just being polite statements roll in, hear me out. I am not saying you can’t be polite, but what I am saying is that you don’t have to be sorry for asking.
It is ok to ask for help and not be sorry about it. Just for a moment, put it in reverse – if someone asked you to do something for them, would you expect them to feel sorry for asking you? Nope. I didn’t think so.
So why is it, that we hold ourselves in such low stead that we say sorry every time we reach out for help. Why are we supposed to be a martyr and take everything on ourselves? And then if we can’t do it all, we’re sorry for it…. Here is the most enlightening thing about this – we actually say sorry without realising.
We actually add sorry to the beginning of so many of our sentences that it has become a part of who we are.
So to the challenge: Take note of how many times you say sorry in one whole day… and tell me.
Or if you don’t want to share, start to take notice and change your internal dialogue so you can ask for help or even for attention without shame and without apologising.
I know I need to stop apologising for things that I don’t need to apologise for. How about you? Belinda x